Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have. Too many of us neglect our needs and desires and speak too critically about our bodies or talents. This shows up in our energy and how we care for ourselves.

We all know people that truly do have unconditional love for themselves, not in a selfish “I am so great kind of way,” but just truly know who and what they are. They realize it is important to meet their needs in order to serve others.

They invest in their own well being so they are happy, radiant, exude charisma and are unapologetically themselves.  They go for massages, pedicures, transformational retreats and trainings, and indulge in vacations and hour-long soaks in the tub with candles, music, and bath salts. They know this kind of self-love is key.

They may hear the voice of the inner critic jump out, but they have learned to tame that voice and do what is necessary to have mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health and wellbeing. We all have to learn to navigate that critic, the voice of doubt, unworthiness and fear; the voice that tells us we’re not good enough.

Very often, we as women buy into the perceived fear of failure and rejection when we put ourselves out there. And yet, there are thousands of women — just like you — who are claiming the spotlight and answering the sacred call to lead with heart.

They lead themselves, their families, their tribe.

What is a one of the primary keys that makes them successful?

A consistent self-love practice.

We all need one.

When we carry the belief, deep down, that we are unworthy of love, attention, and success, this is the energy we put out into the Universe.

This is not something that you can fake either. We, as women. are intuitive beings, and we always know when someone isn’t being true to themselves. You’re either willing to embrace yourself, ‘imperfections’ and all, or you’re not! This is not an overnight process, of course, but one of the best investments you’ll ever make is in your own joy and abundance.

If we have to give up one really bad habit, it should be to disconnect from the belief that we are unworthy.

Think about it, if we truly loved ourselves fully and unconditionally, we would know that we could live the life and have the things that we deeply want. It all starts with us, and cleaning up the way we that think and speak about ourselves.

Only we can change our circumstances.

If your ready then try some of these and watch for change.

One of the most significant things we can do to bring change is to simply forgive ourselves. We are not our past mistakes.

The next is journal. When those feelings of unworthiness or self doubt creep in, write down what was occurring at the time and watch for patterns. Speak to yourself with affirmations. They really do work. The frequency of the words changes your energy which changes your circumstances.

Please remember this, always:

“I am worthy and deserving of all I desire”. 

This is a simple yet powerful affirmation. It is perfect for the energies we are in.